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You're Not Praying as Much as You Should? This is Why.

A few years ago, I read an article where the author suggested that the way we communicate with God changes in different seasons of our lives. I understood it; I agreed with it; but I couldn't very much relate to it until about 5 days ago.

I've been through a fairly difficult time in the last two weeks, and I have to admit that instead of that pushing me to speak with God more, I felt I was spending a significantly smaller amount of time praying.

That's a bad thing, right? Well, maybe not.

The truth, in fact, was: I was probably spending more time praying than usual, just not in an 'actual', 'formal', 'Dear God...' kind of way. I was consistently muttering, thinking, saying prayers throughout the day. But that's not where I'm going with this. 

The truth is: communicating with God does not remain constant through all the seasons of your life. That's something the author of that article pointed out: he went through a phase where he would go up to the hills, sit still, say nothing and just be with God. He went through a phase where it was worship music, not actual spoken prayers, that did the trick. The 'Dear God...' one-hour prayers just weren't 'appropriate' at that time.

I believe the Holy Spirit brought this article to my remembrance, to provide me with some comfort - and more importantly, remind me that "no, you are not a crap Christian" and "no, you have not forgotten God."

I'm here to tell you the same thing. 

If this is you right now; if you're going through a phase when the words are just not coming out; if you're in a place where you're not on your knees spending a lengthy amount of time in prayer, understand that you're not doing something wrong, and ask God to guide you through and keep you in constant intimacy with Him. That's what's really important.

As always, He will. 


Love,
Kunmi x


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