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Why I Call Him “Dad”


The way you think about God is the key to everything. Most of the world – if they believe in Him at all – think He’s a strict headmaster with a whip in His hand, ready to punish you for sneezing at the wrong time. Others think He’s some distant, far away ‘concept’, who can’t relate to our everyday realities. Some see Him as this massive unfathomable Maker of the entirety of the earth, and therefore has no time or concern for our petty lives. To me, God is simply Dad.

I won’t sit here and tell you that it’s always been like that. God and I’s relationship has gone through massive transitions over the years. Although I’ve always believed in God, for a long time, I too saw Him as ‘that far away King’ who I couldn’t quite relate to. I had no idea of who He really was, prayed empty prayers and didn’t even begin to understand the concept of grace and endless love. Although God was a reality to me, He was not real to me.

That all changed so much over the last three years. I met invaluable people who truly helped me understand the nature of God, His role as my Dad, and more importantly, how much I meant to Him. It’s important here to make the distinction between a Father, and a Dad. Anyone can be a Father – a provider, etc. – but not everyone can be a Dad – a supporter, guide, comforter, encourager and companion. This realisation changed EVERYTHING. When you develop intimacy with someone, you become comfortable. You no longer have to put up a front, tell them what you think they want to hear or act like you believe you’re supposed to when you’re around them. God became my Dad, and I started to enjoy all the benefits that came with knowing that!

Recently, on my birthday, there was a moment God and I had, where I literally felt Him smiling down on me, celebrating me. It was such a special, precious and REAL moment. In that moment, it wasn’t a Master/Servant relationship or a Dictator/Follower relationship; it was a treasured moment between a Father and a daughter. One I will hold on to for a long time, and one I wish to have many more of.

It might be that you don’t/didn’t have a father who showed you any love or appreciation, or was there when you needed him to be, or was outright physically or emotionally abusive. But I want you to know that God loves you more than anything in the world (He wouldn’t have come to die for you, if not); YOU are His world. He doesn’t want you to see Him as a Master with a whip; He wants you to know He’s your DAD – who delights in you, cherishes you and is 100% devoted to you.


Kunmi x


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